We know this egg donor thing is a difficult process. It has twists, turns, challenges, unexpected dips and dives. And that's BEFORE the government gets involved.
In 2005 the FDA began regulating testing on egg donors and determining what "kicked" them out of donating eggs. There has to be testing during a certain time frame right before the actual retrieval. Many in the medical field feel it's too narrow of a window, and many patients lose precious time and money should something go wrong.
And that's exactly what happened to me.
Brianne went for her baseline labs and u/s just like me on Friday, like the good patient she is known to be, and the responsible egg donor she is she also picked up all her medications she was due to start on Tuesday.
On Monday, her test results came back. And she tested positive for something (something they'll never tell me of course). Nonetheless she is ineligible to donate by FDA rules and in fact what ever she has kicks her out of donating for the next year. She also had to start some sort of medication too. Now she had her first set of testing done on September 1st, and all was well. However on this October 12th date....she tested positive for something. And just like that...Brianne was out of the picture.
Which means I'm out a donor.
Which means the cycle is canceled.
Oddly, I wasn't devasted...or in despair, or in anguish. Actually, I was downright pissed. Talk about feeling robbed!!! I was furious at Brianne, for reason I don't know. I have no idea what she has that took her out of our cycle, but of course she got the brunt of my anger. It's not like that's all easy either because I certainly can't call her on the phone and yell in her ear. Then panic sets in.
When is the next cycle I can get in?
What about my $8,000 I paid to have Brianne on my books?
Where are these $2500 worth of meds now?
Could I just randomly start asking women on the street to donate an egg or two to me?
After 48hours of pure hell and lots of information gathering, here's what I know.....
January is the soonest I can cycle again.
My $8,000 was never considered "spent" and it was banked.
The meds were returned to the clinic and in safe keeping for me for my next donor.
.....and thus the process begins alllll over again. Choosing another donor.
Now, I guess I consider myself experienced with this process and I have a whole new list of demands and thoughts as I look at the profile of these girls. I want to see that she has a job. I want to see that she's somewhat intelligent. I want to figure out if she's local (so I don't have to pay travel expenses). I want to pay a stipend of no more than $5,000.
257 girls in the database, and I have it narrowed down to 8 girls.
Alisa, Randi, April, Andrea, Connie, Jamie, Angela and Sarah. Just tonight in more profile studying I've crossed off April and Alisa. I'm not sure why anymore, but at the time it seemed appropriate. Trust me you go crossed-eyed looking at these profiles after a couple of hours.
The agency is going to tell me if they are local to my clinic or not. These are all $5,000 girls, so I'm set in that department. Once I find out who's local, then the decision will be made.
I can't believe but just a few days ago 3 nurses and a physician were telling me how wonderful I had done in picking the donor that I did.
And look what happened.
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